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Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage

Introduction

This article represents the findings of a study conducted a group of Bible teachers in the ICOC fellowship of churches. The group was called at that time, “Kingdom Teachers.” It consisted of the following members: Steve Kinnard, Douglas Jacoby, Marty Wooten, Sam Laing, Andy Fleming and Gordon Ferguson. We were asked to study this challenging subject and present something of a position paper, The study lasted about two years and was finished and published in February 2001. Although it was something of a position paper, it was no more than the best thinking of the group working together in collaboration. Each church leadership had to decide what they agreed with and disagreed with, and further, how to apply the conclusions in their own situations (or not). Another more recent study has been done by our “Teacher Service Team,” and since I (Gordon) am no longer a part of that team, I will seek a copy of that paper and post it on this website.

Introductory Matters

The issues regarding marriage, divorce and remarriage do not appear as broad as we teachers thought in the beginning of the study.  We reached our conclusions much more quickly and easily than first imagined.  Having said this, we recognize fully that this issue is not a simple one, nor should it be addressed lightly.  Applying the biblical teaching on divorce/remarriage to the myriad situations people get themselves into is often fraught with difficulties.  It is one whose application has become more and more pressing as our growth has included those with divorced backgrounds or in challenging marriages already.  As the kingdom has expanded, the complexity of the issues has followed suit.  Our mode in this study has been to not only wrestle with the issues, but to reach some unifying conclusions that can be shared with leaders in the movement.  Otherwise, we fall into the plight of advising one thing for divorced people in one church and another in a different church.

At least two potentially disunifying factors have been present in the movement in past years. First, our individual religious backgrounds have caused some of us to want to question things more because we have preconceived conclusions.  We must learn to deal wisely with difficult issues that are not easy to harmonize, especially those in the more challenging realms of application.  It is going to take patience and a willingness to study more deeply to avoid jumping to legislative (and often legalistic) conclusions.  Second, a desire for quick resolution can cause us to take lightly something that God takes very seriously.  Quick fixes are often appealing, but over time they will come back to haunt us.  Doing things God’s way is not normally the easiest way in the short term, but in the long term, it always pays dividends.

Even if people divorce for biblically correct reasons, the damage is there for life, and we cannot take it lightly.  Due to the complexity of the issue, having an overview of many passages to get a clearer picture is paramount.  This subject is not like that of baptism, where one verse may clearly state the bottom line and others on the subject merely amplify it.  To gain a biblical view of divorce and remarriage we will begin with the pertinent OT passages and then proceed to the NT passages that directly shed light on the issues that we are facing today.  Our focus will be on societies characterized by monogamous marriages; therefore, the issue of how to deal with polygamy will not fall within the scope of this study.

Any study of marriage, divorce, and remarriage needs to begin with God’s view of divorce, which is stated clearly and succinctly in Malachi 2:16: “‘I hate divorce,’ says the Lord God of Israel.” Here Malachi warns husbands to stay faithful to the wife of their youth.  Obviously, this was a problem in their culture.  Why stay faithful?  Because God hates divorce.  Any study of divorce and remarriage must recognize where God stands on the issue: God hates divorce.  Since he does not take our vows lightly, neither can we.  In Ecclesiastes 5:4-6, we read:  “When you make a vow to God, do not delay in fulfilling it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow.  It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfill it.  Do not let your mouth lead you into sin. And do not protest to the temple messenger, ‘My vow was a mistake.’ Why should God be angry at what you say and destroy the work of your hands?”  Proverbs 2:17 describes the wayward wife as one “who has left the partner of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before God.”  Obviously, marriage vows fall into a realm of utmost seriousness before God.

We must continually keep in front of our people both God’s ideal for marriage and his view of divorce. Church members should not view divorce as an option. In our premarital counseling, we must stress that God hates divorce.  As a movement, we have done an exceptional job of helping those married within the church to stay married.  We must maintain this high standard.

Old Testament

The revelation of God began with the creation of man, followed quickly by the institution of marriage, since “It is not good for the man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18).  God’s ideal for marriage was clear – one man for one woman for life.  Verses can be multiplied to show the exalted view of marriage in the mind of God.  In fact, God often used the relationship between husband and wife as the best description of his covenant relationship with his chosen people (Isaiah 54:5-8; Jeremiah 3:14; Hosea 1-3).

Old Testament legislation regarding marriage and divorce shows clearly that God is deadly serious about fidelity in marriage and the sanctity of the marriage covenant.   An Israelite man was not allowed to marry certain of his close relatives, a former wife that had since re-married then divorced,[1] or any Gentile women (excluding captives of war).[2]  If a newly married woman was found not to be a virgin, she was to be stoned to death,[3] as were a man and a woman who slept together while she was already betrothed to another man (if it happened in the countryside then only the man was killed and the woman was presumed innocent).[4]  If a man seduced a virgin who was not pledged to be married, then he had to pay the bride price and marry her (if her father was willing) and could never divorce her.[5]  Illegitimate children (born outside of marriage) had to be excluded from the assembly of the Lord.[6]

In spite of the seriousness of the marriage vows, God did allow divorce.  The best known OT passage regarding this is Deuteronomy 24:1-4, which reads:

       If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, [2] and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, [3] and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, [4] then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance.

Here a man is instructed that if he finds something indecent (‘erwat dabar) about his wife, then he can give her a certificate of divorce (seper keritut).  This certificate gave her the right to remarry.  The teaching of Jesus helps us understand that God allowed divorce under this legislation because of the hard-heartedness of humanity (Matthew 19:8).  Men were leaving their wives and abandoning them without any rights or privileges.  This legislation was apparently designed to force the husband to count the cost soberly before divorcing his wife (since he could later not remarry her) and to establish some rights for women in this unjust environment.  God loves justice.  His heart for his people allowed divorce to be established in the Mosaic code to meet a practical need.

The “indecent” thing found in a wife has been much debated.  In Jesus’ day, two schools of thought predominated.  One group believed the indecency was immorality and the other believed it to be almost anything displeasing to the husband.[7]  Since God hates divorce, it surely could not have been anything trivial.  On the other hand, although it must have been directed at something very serious, it seems likely that it was not full-blown immorality, since that was punishable by stoning.  Regardless of the exact identification of the indecent behavior, the passage clearly demonstrates that in some situations, something less than God’s ideal was allowed by way of concession.

Therefore, all divorce allowed by God is concessionary in nature which shows that God has both an ideal will (no divorce) and a concessionary will (divorce under certain circumstances).  Under God’s concessionary will for marriage also fall both polygamy and concubinage.  Regardless of how our sensibilities may be shocked by these OT practices, God did allow them.  Polygamy was regulated but not prohibited.  Some of God’s most outstanding OT heroes had multiple wives and concubines.  Solomon was condemned for marrying foreign wives but not for marrying multiple wives (1 Kings 11:1-6, Nehemiah 13: 26).  These observations alone should militate against our becoming too rigid in dealing with marriage, divorce and remarriage in the New Testament, since in the OT period God’s concessionary will was considerably broader than his ideal will.

The contemporary applications of the latitude of God’s concessionary will are not always easy to identify. When the Israelites were called back to God after the Babylonian captivity, those who had married foreign women were required to send the women (and their common offspring) away.  This was not called divorce in the passages, and would probably best be described as annulment (Ezra 9-10).  A period of time was allowed during which unlawful relationships were identified and repentance effected.  Nehemiah, on the other hand, although he rebuked the erring Israelites, apparently did not require them to divorce. The different approaches of these contemporaries, Ezra and Nehemiah, along with the “grace period” allowed by Ezra, are factors to take into account as we lead the people of God into a fuller appreciation of God’s position on divorce and remarriage.  Rigidity and dogmatism are unsavory qualities generally, but they are especially dangerous when trying to discern appropriate practical applications in sensitive areas.

New Testament

The primary NT passages regarding marriage, divorce and remarriage are the following:  Matthew 5:31-32; 19:3-12; Mark 10:2-12; Luke 16:18; and 1 Corinthians 7.[8]  In order to compare the Synoptic accounts, they are included at this point, beginning with the simpler passages in Mark and Luke.

[2] Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” [3] “What did Moses command you?” he replied. [4] They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.” [5] “It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. [6] “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ [7] ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, [8] and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. [9] Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” [10] When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. [11] He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. [12] And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:2-12). “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery” (Luke 16:18).

In Mark’s account, we see that a man or woman who divorces their mate and marries another commits adultery (against her, in the case of the man divorcing his wife).  The presupposition is that they are divorcing for the express purpose of remarrying, since divorce is allowed by concession in some situations, as is remarriage.  Luke adds that the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.  What was Jesus dealing with?  He was addressing legalistic, hard-hearted people who went by the letter of the law and not by its spirit.  These are people who had lost the meaning of the heart of God’s law and had turned it into rules and regulations.  Taking the marriage vows lightly was never acceptable to God.  Hence, these accounts state unequivocally the ideal divine marriage law with no exceptions noted.  Now consider the accounts in Matthew that seem to include exceptions (highlighted in the passages below) of a concessionary nature.

     [ 31] “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ [32] But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery” (Matthew 5:31-32).

    [3] Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” [4] “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ [5] and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? [6] So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” [7] “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” [8] Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. [9] I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.” [10] The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.” [11] Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. [12] For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it” (Matthew 19:3-12).

The question naturally arises about why these exceptions are included in Matthew (i.e. 5:31, 19:9) and not in Mark or Luke. First, we must remember the principle that all relevant passages on a given subject have to be studied, not just isolated ones.  Especially is this principle true when some passages on a topic are general in nature while related ones contain detailed specifics. For example, the biblical doctrine of salvation stated in John 3:16 is absolutely true, but can be easily misunderstood unless we consider other more detailed passages which elaborate on the need for repentance and baptism.

Perhaps more significantly, we cannot leave out an important part of determining doctrine in the early church as well as providing practical direction to the early disciples – the revelatory ministry of the Spirit.  It is clear that the gradual formation of the canon would have left many theological and practical gaps in many parts of the early church.  For instance, the early church functioned a considerable amount of time without the benefit of Paul’s writing on the important distinction between faith and works.  Yet, there was still the expectation to be faithful disciples and to live by faith and not by works.

During the time the canon was being written, the Spirit was actively communicating through unrecorded prophecy and revelation, filling in the theological and doctrinal gaps.  It would take some time before the canon would have been sufficiently completed to clear up any doctrinal misunderstandings.  As applied to the issue of divorce and remarriage, since there is one Spirit, we can trust there is one teaching on divorce which the Spirit made known through his prophets and inspired people during those times of confusion.  The Scriptures that appear somewhat contradictory to us would assumedly have been clearer to the early writers in that the necessary assumptions surrounding those passages for a conciliatory understanding were intact as the Spirit revealed the necessary information in all the churches.

The simplest answer for us today regarding the “exception passages” in Matthew is that Matthew recognized a growing problem in the church over the divorce issue and included it in his gospel to expand and explain what Mark and Luke stated more generally.  Similar examples can be found involving other biblical subjects, and were it not for the controversial nature of this issue, we would likely not even feel the need to take the time to explain the principle in any detail.

Matthew Examined More Closely

Jesus was always more concerned with the effect of our behavior on our relationship with God and with other people than with legal perfection. When a man divorced his wife he thereby placed her in a difficult and hard position in the world (women of that day did not have the employment opportunities available in today’s society) and virtually forced her to re-marry to protect herself.  To Jesus, this was a great offense.  The wording of Matthew 5:31-32 seems to indicate that his words are more condemning of the man’s actions in placing his divorced wife in the situation of compromise then they are of the woman for re-marrying.  However, he makes it clear that she sins when she re-marries.

Many religious folk have exhibited a strong tendency to force Matthew’s apparent exceptions to be aligned with Mark’s and Luke’s lack of exceptions rather than vice versa.  In other words, they are uncomfortable with accepting any divorce and remarriage.  A similar tack is taken regarding 1 Corinthians 7:15, which appears to allow divorce and remarriage when an unbelieving mate deserts one who is a disciple.  Even if this most rigid position is avoided, the issue of whether a “guilty party” can remarry ushers in even a greater challenge.  There are a couple of factors that likely have contributed to this emotional reaction against allowing divorce and remarriage of the guilty party for sexual unfaithfulness.  First, there is the concern that such an option promotes a strong temptation to engage in adultery for the purpose of getting out of a less-than-ideal marriage relationship, and secondly, a failure to regard marital unfaithfulness as a sin from which someone can truly repent and be trusted enough to remarry.

Those so inclined would allow someone to remarry who murdered his wife and repented, but someone who commits adultery may not be offered the same opportunity.  If this track is followed, once a person is “put away” for the sin of immorality, no hope is offered of overcoming the sins that led to the adultery to the point of entering another marriage relationship.  Some have justified this position by maintaining that the consequences for sin are sometimes great, yet with no solid biblical evidence for such an extreme position, the consequences for imposing such a position on God’s people would seem even more consequential and discouraging.  If the guilty party cannot remarry, it cannot be that the guilty party is still joined to the now divorced partner.  When the union is broken for one, it is broken for the other.  Therefore, if the guilty party does not have the right of remarriage also, it must be because penance in the form of lifetime celibacy is demanded.

There are two circumstances that allow a divorce and remarriage to take place:  1) marital unfaithfulness (porneia) which, from the definition of the Greek word, would include sex with another person, and 2) desertion by a non-Christian spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15).  In the latter case, a strong implication that the deserting spouse would inevitably be involved with other relationships is reasonable but not stated.  Jesus addresses the situation of his day by telling the men within his community that there is only one reason (parektos logou – “except for the reason/word/matter”) for divorce.  The sole reason to give a certificate of divorce is porneia, meaning sexual unfaithfulness.  To divorce her for any other reason is to make the divorced woman an adulteress.   Because of the socio-economic situation of first century Palestine, the woman would be forced to find another husband to support her.  Since she was divorced illegitimately, she would become an adulteress and anyone who married her would become an adulterer.

Another example of Jesus’ teaching in this area is found in John 8: 1-11, the well-known story of the woman caught in adultery.  Jesus did not enforce upon the woman the teachings of Deuteronomy 22:22-24; instead he dealt with the hypocrisy, hard heartedness and self-righteousness of her accusers.  Instead of the prescribed stoning, he admonished the adulterous woman to leave her life of sin.  A study of Jesus’ teachings and their emphases will reveal a pattern: he stands against legalism, harshness and binding burdens on people that hinder them from entering the kingdom of heaven; he upholds justice, mercy and right relationship.

For most sins, repentance means something like this:  “What I did was wrong; I wish I had never done it; if I had it all to do over, I would not have done it; and I will never do it again in the future.”  Even if one committed a sin like murder, he would have no further recourse but to honestly repent, and we would then have to accept such a person back into our fellowship. Our best approach with some divorces and remarriages that are difficult to sort out should probably follow the same reasoning.  Since those who come into the kingdom with remarriages after a divorce (or divorces!) not based on scriptural grounds are accepted as they are, then those who as disciples sin by unscriptural divorces and remarriages and who later repent of this should be accepted “as they are” as well. Since we do not demand a change in the marital status of those coming into the kingdom with unscriptural divorces and remarriages, how can we fail to follow the same logic with, and extend the same mercy to, disciples who sin in this same way and later repent? This may be unsettling to us, but can we do otherwise and be consistent? Some cases become so tangled that leaders can do no more than point out the appropriate Scriptures, give their best advice and leave ultimate judgment in the hands of God.

1 Corinthians 7 – Preliminary Considerations

Before we proceed to discuss divorce and remarriage, a related teaching of this chapter is both obvious and striking: some people should remain unmarried simply on practical grounds.  In our movement, we have often used Genesis 2 to stress the need for marriage to the point that harmonizing Paul’s admonitions here becomes somewhat challenging.  In other words, we have been reluctant to encourage permanent singleness in the way that Paul did.  We have tended to make people feel guilty (subtly and unintentionally) for not getting married.  We very much need to address this issue and remove the stigma of remaining single.

Paul and Barnabas gave up their right to be married in order to serve in the ministry unencumbered (1 Corinthians 9:5).  Where are the single evangelists among us who remain single without feeling pressured to marry?  Yet no one can question Paul’s statement in 1 Corinthians 7:33-34 that “a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world – how he can please his wife – and his interests are divided.”  The issue becomes even more significant when we are considering church plantings in dangerous places.  Clearly the unmarried evangelist would have a huge advantage over a married one.  Considering 1 Corinthians 7:34, it would probably only be fair and reasonable to include that a sister might remain single to better serve “full-time” in some ministry of the church as well.

Purely on practical grounds, many disciples should be advised against remarriage, or at the very least, not be encouraged to remarry.  Among this number would be divorcees that come into the kingdom with terrible track records in previous marriages. Another group that should think long and hard before remarrying are those who are divorced and have older children still at home. These disciples hope that an additional parent will help them in raising their children, but they may instead find themselves in the middle of horrendous marital and family strife.  When both potential partners are in this situation, entering into a “blended family” status may invite dire consequences.  Another category in which marriage might be a very unwise choice would be the case of older singles with personality and character qualities that would make adjustments in marriage very challenging.

Getting married, according to Paul, is not always the ideal.  Marriage is neither commanded nor absolutely forbidden.  Putting undue pressure on people either way is not biblical or practical.  Remaining single may be the wisest choice.  On the one hand is the need to be kingdom-focused in a way that marriage does not allow, and on the other hand are the practical issues that make marriage for some downright difficult and perhaps disastrous. Great wisdom is needed in giving advice in this arena.  Some do not want to get married but should, while others want to marry who should not.  The person’s own conscience is an important factor in deciding whether to marry or remain single, as indicated by Paul’s comments in verse 37:  “But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin – this man also does the right thing.”  In summary, if we improved our advice regarding contracting marriage in the first place, we would lower the number of seriously dysfunctional marriages among us.

1 Corinthians 7 – Examined More Closely

Now let us begin considering the specific passages in 1 Corinthians 7 relating directly to our subject.  In verses 8-16, Paul addresses those in three different marriage categories: the unmarried and widows; marriages in which both partners are disciples; and “mixed” marriages in which one partner is a disciple and one is not.  The advice and applications vary in each.

He begins with the unmarried and widows (verses 8-9), who are said to be better off remaining unmarried.  However, if they did not have the gift of celibacy, it was better to marry than to burn with passion.  This passage cannot be construed to mean that lust is excused for single people, nor can it be used to justify hasty marriages.  Further, it cannot be used to excuse breaking up a marriage in which one partner is incapacitated (i.e. poor physical or mental health) or unavailable (in jail, for example).  Any of these interpretations would violate many other passages.  The setting that lay behind this advice (the “present distress” of verse 26) is mentioned as a practical reason for remaining unmarried.  Others have already been mentioned in the introductory comments to this section.

In verses 10-11, the “married” are addressed.  A comparison of these verses with those immediately following them will demonstrate that the “married” referred to here are both disciples. (Note also that these verses are commands and not concessions, in contrast to the previous verses, which give the unmarried the right to marry without sinning.)   Paul states that he is not giving this command, but the Lord is. When Paul says that the Lord has already spoken to this situation, he must have had in mind the Lord’s teaching recorded in Matthew 5:31-32; Matthew 19:3-9; Mark 10:2-12; Luke 16:18.  Therefore, these passages in the gospel accounts must be viewed as covenant legislation (where both marriage partners are in a relationship with God) not universal legislation.

If either spouse leaves, then both disciples must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to one another.  Neither disciple is allowed to remarry.  While God’s ideal will is here stated clearly (no separation), the very mention of separation shows that God allows this concession as long as no remarriage to other partners takes place. In some rare cases, church leaders might counsel or approve, albeit reluctantly, ongoing separation between two married disciples without church discipline being applied.  Paul’s statements have to be harmonized with the exception clause in Matthew 19, but the general application was what evidently was the need of the hour in the Corinthian church.  Although the text does not mention other reasons for separation, in certain extreme cases it might be recommended.    However, if both spouses were supposedly disciples, any ongoing sin in the life of either disciple in this situation would be dealt with by counseling, and if need be, by church discipline, resulting in repentance or removal from the church.  If one disciple was disfellowshipped or fell away, the marriage would then move into the category of a believer married to an unbeliever, which is next discussed.

In 1 Corinthians 7:12-16, Paul moves on to address those he terms “the rest.”  Contextually, it is evident that this marriage is comprised of one disciple and one non-disciple.  We would have to assume that one partner became a disciple and the other did not, as is often the case today.  This passage should not be regarded as an example of a Christian marrying a non-Christian, because that is ruled out by other passages, including verse 39 in this very chapter.  Note that Paul says that he, not the Lord, is speaking to this specific situation.  This means that the Lord’s teaching noted above was to be applied to those in the kingdom. Now, however, Paul, as an inspired apostle, is making an application that became necessary as the church was spreading, especially into Gentile culture.  In passages like John 14:26 and John 16:12-13, Jesus prepared the apostles for additional revelation they would receive to meet needs that would arise in the future.  Obviously, the situation in Corinth constituted such a case.

If the non-Christian is willing to live with the Christian, the Christian must stay in the marriage.  It should be noted that the non-believer is willing to live with the disciple as a disciple.  In other words, the non-Christian must be willing to allow the Christian spouse to practice his or her Christianity.  Obviously, a disciple could apply the definition of “willing” in an unreasonable manner by insisting that absolutely no tension be produced by the religious differences present in the home.  Such a position would not only be impractical, but it would also be quite unbiblical.  It is important to remember that 1 Peter 3:1-6 is a continuation of the admonition to be submissive in less-than-ideal situations.  No disciple can expect an absence of tension when his or her spouse is governed by a very different standard.  But they can expect that an unbelieving spouse be “willing” to live with them as they serve Jesus on his terms.  Wisdom is vital in attempting to apply biblical principles in difficult situations, necessitating the seeking of much advice from spiritual leaders.

But a highly significant issue in the passage is what it means to no longer be bound (verse 15) – what is the bondage?  It would seem clear that the marriage bond is in view, and all of the kingdom teachers agree that this is the case. If the unbeliever departs, the believer is no longer bound, but if the unbeliever is content to live with the believer, the believer is still bound.  Many commentators feel compelled to harmonize this passage with the gospel accounts, which would necessitate ruling out the possibility of divorce and remarriage.  But Paul himself makes it clear that the situation here being considered is different from the situation and the teaching in the gospel accounts (“The Lord, not I;” “I, not the Lord”).  If mere separation were in view, the directions would be the same as for two married disciples as in verses 10-11.

Paul writes in verse 14 that the unbeliever is “sanctified” through the Christian mate.  This, of course, does not mean that they are thereby saved – it merely means that God recognizes the marriage as valid and they can remain in it.  If it were not thus recognized, then the children born into it would be “unclean” (illegitimate).  Since Paul was answering the questions about marriage raised by the Corinthians (verse 1), they evidently were wondering if a Christian/non-Christian marriage was acceptable to God as a lawful relationship. Here Paul says “yes.”   Perhaps they mistakenly applied a teaching like that found in 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 to the marriage bond itself.

Verse 16 most likely is saying that the Christian should accept the departure of their mate and the subsequent divorce it will bring, rather than try to hang on to a lost cause in the hopes of saving the mate.  If the unbeliever leaves, they are demonstrating their lack of openness to the gospel by the very act of leaving. The breakup of a marriage is always tragic and the Christian should always do everything within reason to avoid a breakup. A disciple must focus on the principles of 1 Peter 3 in seeking the most righteous solutions, not on trying to justify getting out of a marriage.  Exhibiting an arrogant attitude violates both 1 Corinthians 7 and 1 Peter 3.  If we are doing all we can to make the marriage work and the unbeliever leaves anyway, so be it, but our conscience must remain clear.

A question regarding the identity of the unbeliever naturally arises when a disciple falls away.  Does such an apostate qualify as an unbeliever in this context? Yes, they do. One who falls away can certainly be prone to become a persecutor of their mate, and desertion is not uncommon for such a person.  In the case of a believer who leaves the church under any circumstances, we will have to strive to maintain gracious attitudes toward them if they decide to return after messing up their life considerably, including by marrying again.  What if they are single when they are restored, but their former spouse is remarried already? Can the restored disciple now be allowed to marry another disciple in the church?  This issue may be a thorny one, but the righteous approach is to allow this person a new beginning.  If they leave the kingdom and later get restored, they return under the same status they entered originally – with a clean slate.

Conclusions

No other human relationship is like that of marriage, for it pictures the relationship between Christ and his church (Ephesians 5:22-33).  Both relationships are a great mystery, deeper than human intelligence can fathom.  We must do everything within our power as leaders to preserve the sanctity and permanence of the marriage union.  Our constant focus must be to keep marriages together, even if we have to expend much counseling energy over long periods of time.  God hates divorce but loves harmony and resolution.  If reconciliation between all brothers and sisters in Christ is crucial, reconciliation between estranged marriage partners is even more essential.  The tendency to allow unrighteousness in Christian marriage relationships that would not be tolerated in any other kingdom relationships must cease.  Leaders must exercise their God-given responsibility to not allow Christians to remain in a state of bitterness, resentment, animosity and conflict. Sin must be dealt with and repented of. In some extreme cases, in keeping with Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, separation of spouses might be tolerated as a concession to weakness and immaturity. Certainly, leaders would need to exercise much godly wisdom in reaching such decisions.

Marriage or remarriage is not for everyone.  In fact, we have much need to build a biblical mind-set about the practical value of remaining single in a number of different situations.  As we give advice of this nature, two things must be kept in mind: 1) the need to explain the principles behind the advice in specific detail, and 2) the necessity of realizing that advice is just advice.  If Paul as an inspired apostle refused to bind his advice on people, we certainly cannot succumb to viewing our advice as being tantamount to God’s will.

We must always strive to strike a balance between being more legislative than God and being more tolerant than he.  We cannot bind what he has not bound nor loose what he has not loosed.  Being aware of God’s concessionary will in the realm of marriage should cause us to shun legalistic answers to difficult circumstances.  For those disciples in the unfortunate position of having divorced (as disciples) without due grounds (adultery), we must have faith that they will be able to survive without remarriage. Reconciliation is the only alternative allowed by Scripture, but God will be with them in that situation (1 Corinthians 10:13).  Similarly, dating couples where one partner is divorced from a believer (on any grounds other than adultery) should “break up.”

In brief form, the following observations sum up most of the key issues:

  1. At conversion, people are accepted in their present marital status.
  2. Those who leave the fellowship and are restored are also accepted in their present marital status.
  3. Someone in the church whose spouse has been unfaithful has the right to divorce and remarry since the cause of the divorce was immorality on the part of their mate.  Since this sin allows the marriage bond to be broken for the innocent party, the bond is broken for both parties, and hence both can remarry.  Each local leadership will need to decide how to deal with the immorality that occurred.
  4. It is noteworthy that although the leadership of a local church might respond to an isolated act of adultery with no more than a private warning to the one who sinned, the spouse of such a person would be within his/her biblical rights to demand a divorce.  Although reconciliation would always be strongly encouraged, the unfaithfulness may be so devastating that the faithful spouse can no longer stay in marriage with the adulterous partner.  Divorce should always be considered the last possible resort.
  5. Disciples should certainly not divorce one another for other causes, but if they do, they must remain unmarried or be reconciled  (1 Corinthians 7:10-11).
  6. If a non-Christian mate leaves a disciple, then the disciple is not bound and can divorce the one who departs.
  7. Any Christian who leaves God is considered an “unbeliever” in light of 1 Corinthians 7:12-15.  If the unbelieving spouse deserts the disciple and is no longer willing to live with them, the faithful spouse can then divorce them.
  8. The need for preventive counseling, including the disciplinary steps of Matthew 18:15-17, should always remain our first and strongest line of defense against divorce.
  9. Though there are definite Biblical commands and principles regarding divorce and remarriage, we cannot underestimate the need for leaders to pray for wisdom and seek advice in order to properly apply them.

[1] Leviticus 20:14, 17, 21; Deuteronomy 22:30; 24:4.

[2] Deuteronomy 7:3, 21:10-14, Joshua 23:12.

[3] Deuteronomy 22:20.

[4] Deuteronomy 22:23-27.

[5] Deuteronomy 22:28-29.

[6] Deuteronomy 23:2.

[7] In view of these two schools of thought, it is interesting to note how Joseph chose to react to Mary’s apparent adultery:

Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be with child through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly’ (Matthew 1:18-19).

[8] Romans 7:1-4 addresses marriage and remarriage, but only as an example of the general marriage law for the purpose of illustrating a spiritual principle of being released from law.

The Problem of Evil and The Existence of God

The Problem Stated

The problem of why God allows evil to exist is a major hurdle to developing faith in God in the first place.  Even after we come to faith, Satan will use this problem to try to trip us during difficult periods in our lives.  Years ago, I read a brief but well-reasoned book by Thomas Warren entitled Have Atheists Proved There Is No God?[1]  Through the years, I have not found a better book on the subject from the standpoint logic. Eventually I wrote a lesson arranging the basic arguments of that book into sermon form. The   material in this chapter  is adapted from that sermon, first presented many years ago.

As we consider this issue, keep two things in mind: (1) No matter how much explanation may be given, the ultimate issue will always be faith in the face of all storms of life.  (2) While logic and reasoning cannot remove the necessary hurdles which faith must cross, many unnecessary hurdles can be taken away by practical explanations.  Failure to remove those in the latter category would be a serious mistake. 

Without question, one of the most challenging hindrances to believing in and trusting God hinges on the question of why he allows bad things to happen to good people, as we often phrase it. The average person would pose his question something like this:  “Why does God allow disease, starvation, natural calamities, and such atrocities as war, murder, rape  and the abuse of children?”  The agnostic would frame his concerns more in this manner:  “If God wills evil, he is not good.  If God does not will evil, but it occurs anyway, then he is not all-powerful.  Therefore, since evil exists, God must be deficient either in goodness or in power.”  The atheist would state his case even more strongly:  “A good, all-powerful Being would eliminate evil completely.  But, evil exists.  Therefore, God does not exist!”

Definition of Key Terms

Before we proceed, a definition of basic terms is needed.  The definitions of good and evil are vital.  The only true evil is what is called “sin” in the Bible, for it violates our relationship with God and with our fellowman.  Conversely, the only true good is biblical “righteousness,” depicting something which is always good, and which promotes our relationship with God and others.  What we might call “instrumental evil” is something which leads men toward the ultimate wrong (sin).  The things in this category can be either stumbling blocks or stepping stones, but they are not inherently evil.  What we might call “instrumental good” is that which leads one toward the intrinsic good.

Thus, the same incident could be instrumentally good or bad, depending on how someone  viewed it and responded to it.  Sickness would be a good example of something that could be a blessing or a curse.  A health problem might cause one to curse God or turn to God, depending on the heart of the person with the problem.  Actually, pain itself is not necessarily evil.  It may be only the symptom of a health problem, motivating a person to get needed attention, or it may be the necessary result of having obtained life-saving surgery.

The definition of some attributes of God are necessary to our understanding of the problem of good and evil.  When we say God is “omniscient”( all-knowing), we are saying he knows all that is possible to know.  For example, he foreknew that man would sin and would need redemption.  Therefore, he created a world with that in mind, a world suitable for the spiritual development of man.  Our present world was never intended to be a permanent paradise—that is reserved for heaven! 

When we say God is“omnipotent” (all-powerful), we are recognizing he can do whatever is possible to be done.  However, some things are impossible by definition.  For example, can God make a rock too big to pick up, or a square circle?  The impression left by that question is that if God had more power, he could.  The fact is that some things are not subject to power¾even God’s power! He will do only that which is in harmony with his nature. He will not and cannot lie, for example.  Nor will he interfere with the free moral agency of man.  To describe God as just is to say that he must reward good and punish evil.  Since he created man as a free moral agent, his justice requires that he allow man to make real choices. 

One of the keys to understanding the problem of suffering and evil is to understand the definition of man.  By God’s design, man is a creature of choice, a free moral agent (and not a robot).  Therefore, man can choose to do good or evil, even though God desperately wants him to choose good!  God could not make man (by definition) and then refuse him the choices.  (He could have made robots without choice, but not man!) 

The atheist wants to know why God did not make man incapable of evil, but he is really asking why God made man in the first place (because free will is a part of the definition of man).  We desire to have children, even knowing that they will make some hurtful choices.  God wanted to bless us through relationships with him and with others, and you cannot have relationships if you are a robot—it’s an issue of choice.

Another vital definition is that of our physical world.  We must remember the purposes for its creation.  It was designed as the ideal environment for spiritual purposes.  Some of the necessary characteristics of such a world would include the following:

1.   It would not just afford pleasure without responsibility or adversity (or  we would all be spoiled brats!).

2.   Man would be allowed the atmosphere in which to freely exercise choices.  (Hence, some distance exists between him and God; he needs to see enough evidence of God to know that he is there, but not in a manner that overwhelms and forces decisions).

3.   It would be suited to meeting the physical needs of man.

4.   It would function in a law-abiding manner in order to teach the relationship of cause and effect.Without this feature, chaos would reign and such values as responsibility and morality could not be taught.  For example, an ax is excellent for chopping trees, but it also can be used to chop people.  Bricks have excellent qualities for building houses, but they can be used to bash in someone’s head.  What can be done about this dual purpose situation?  You cannot take away the choice from man, nor can you make the ax have one set of qualities when applied to a tree and another set when applied to a human!  Bottom line, we must learn the law of cause and effect: whatever we sow, we reap.  And this lesson cannot be learned unless axes always cut, and bricks are always hard!

5.   This world would provide challenge for man’s intellectual powers; it would teach him to deal with obstacles.

6.   Finally, such a world would need to be temporary, but highly significant with regard to the spiritual choices made in it.

Lessons to Be Learned

A word about the causes of human suffering is in order.  True evil (sin) always comes from man’s free choices.  God does not want man to make such choices, and he has worked amazingly through the centuries to influence the choices to be righteous ones.  One look at Jesus on the cross should be more than enough to make the point!  God, however, intends that we view all  challenges inherent in our temporary world   with faith and respond to them in faith so that he might accomplish his purposes through them.

Things such as illnesses are a part of a temporary world, and may become instrumentally good in helping us to lean on God.  Natural calamity reminds us of our frailty and serves to keep us conscious of our need for God.  Some, and perhaps most, of these calamities trace back to the changes in the earth’s environment after the Genesis flood—and sin caused the flood (thus indirectly, the changes).  Some calamities today relate to what we ourselves have done to pollute and harm our environment, but the fact that we experience natural calamities is consistent with God’s purpose to train us spiritually. They remind us that life is certain (in that it will end) and uncertain (in that the time of its end is unknown).

Next, let’s consider the design of human suffering.  God’s allowance of suffering relates directly to his goal of spiritually developing mankind. Most  human suffering is brought on directly by the free moral agency of man.  For it to have the desired impact on our choices, it must affect us randomly.  (If suffering only happened to the unrighteous, the temptation to seek God for wrong reasons would be tremendously strong!)

The benefits of suffering are multiple if we respond to our circumstances with faith in God.  Suffering sets the stage for a person to live a life of self-denial, which is the greatest life possible.  It affords a person the opportunity to develop  his moral character (James 1:2-4; Romans 5:1-5).  God can lead people to himself through suffering, either  originally or later (if they have left him).  It provides for a person’s love to be tested in the best way possible(as in having to choose suffering over sin).  Suffering can develop our compassion for our fellowman.  It helps a person to better appreciate his love for God and God’s love for him; his love for others and theirs for him.  It will help anyone better appreciate the life to come.  Finally, suffering influences others to become Christians, because they see our response to suffering to be far different from the responses of  unbelievers.  A cross borne courageously  in our lives is still the drawing card for others (Colossians 1:24).

The proper attitudes to maintain as we face human suffering are based on the possible purposes behind the suffering.  As we consider the several alternatives which God may be trying to accomplish in our lives, we learn the appropriate responses of faith.  One, God may chasten his children in order to mold them, in which case we humbly submit.  Two, we may suffer persecution because we are sons and daughters of God, in which case we rejoice.  Three, we may not be able to understand just why we are suffering, in which case we trust.  In all things, we look to the cross of Christ and see that God shared in our suffering, experienced it to the full degree and in so doing, showed us the greatest love.  Now he calls us to follow him, trusting that our eternal rewards will far outweigh the temporary struggles.

Once we are able to remove the obstacles to faith produced by the problem of pain and suffering, we are in a much better position to see God more clearly.

—Gordon Ferguson (November 1999)


[1] Thomas B. Warren.  Have Atheists Proved There Is No God? National Christian Press.  

Where Was God on September 11?

Some days we never forget, for they are indelibly imprinted on our hearts and minds. I remember exactly where I was when I learned of the death of President Kennedy nearly 40 years ago. Such shocking historical events are etched deeply in our memory banks. September 11, 2001 is a date that we will never forget. Besides the horror we felt for those directly involved, these events struck terror into our own hearts as we imagined being there personally, maybe especially in those hijacked airplanes. Flying produces some fear in all of us anyway, and now we have one more fear to cope with.

I remember July 17, 1996, the date that TWA Flight 800 exploded. Upon seeing the news late that evening, the flight number rang a bell with me, and when I ran upstairs to look at tickets in my drawer for upcoming flights, I saw that I was booked on Flight 800 a week or two later. On Monday, September 10, Theresa and I flew into Logan just before midnight, just hours before this unbelievable terrorist attacked happened Tuesday morning. Originally, several of us were scheduled to fly to NYC early Tuesday morning for a meeting, but later re-scheduled the flight Wednesday morning (which flight we obviously never took).

Many people are asking the same question:  WHERE WAS GOD ON SEPTEMBER 11? One of our campus students at Suffolk University, Dan Sewell, had a professor who stated: “This proves that God doesn’t exist.” Dan stood up, voiced his opinion to the contrary, and walked out. The professor called attention to an age old dilemma, which is stated in some way similar to this:  “If there is a loving, all powerful God, he wouldn’t allow such things to happen. So, if he exists, he is either not loving or not all powerful.  Therefore, the best case is that he simply does not exist.”

If we believe the Bible, we believe in the God of the Bible – but the question remains:  Where is God in all of this?  Why does he allow such things to happen? For starters, we can know that God hates evil and those who cause it. Psalm 11:5 puts it this way: “The Lord examines the righteous, but the wicked and those who love violence his soul hates.” However, God obviously allows people to commit evil. Isaiah 45:7 states: “I form the light and create darkness, I bring prosperity and create disaster; I, the Lord, do all these things.” Further, Lamentations 3:38 reads: “Is it not from the mouth of the Most High that both calamities and good things come?”

God has an ideal will as expressed in the Bible (that men would be righteous and not sin); but he also has an allowed will. He allows sin (though he hates it) because of the nature of man. We are free moral agents, not robots. I remember trying to help a woman who had been sexually abused repeatedly by a close relative, horrific acts for which she blamed God for allowing to happen. I tried to help her see that God had, through his Word, begged her relative not to do such vile things. But for God to intervene would have meant his interference with the man’s free will, and that he will not do.

Another related issue regards the reason for our existence on earth. We are here to learn spiritual truths, and the necessity of cause and effect is an essential part of this learning. In a physical sense, the knife that can carve turkey for dinner can wreck havoc when used on another human. In a spiritual sense, going against God’s spiritual principles must have an adverse effect in the lives of those who choose evil. The law of the harvest is one big lesson that we simply must learn – you reap what you sow.

Many times in the OT, God brought punishment on the nations, including his own nation. In describing such punishment, very graphic terms were used by God, including warnings that the people would eat your own babies and see their pregnant women ripped open by invading armies. What we forget God, he will send us some wake-up calls. God may not directly cause such things, but he sees them coming and uses them to bring about repentance – that much is sure. What if only bad things happened to bad people? We would be motivated to serve God our of selfish motives, rather than choosing him in spite of the challenges of so doing.

What is God’s view of America’s retaliation against the terrorists who perpetrated the atrocities of September 11? CNN conducted an online survey a few days after the tragedy, asking people to register their main feeling at the time – either shock, sadness, anger. At that point, the reaction was that about 25% were still in shock, another 25% just sad, and 50% engrossed in anger, desiring retaliation. The Psalms have many passages where David in effect asks God to smite his enemies. “Arise, O Lord!  Deliver me, O my God!  Strike all my enemies on the jaw; break the teeth of the wicked” (Psalm 3:7). However, in harmonizing other Scriptures on the subject, it must be said that the motivation for vengeance must be a surrendered desire for the vindication of God’s righteousness, and not a cry for personal vengeance. Perhaps a good way to state it is that we should want to see justice rather than vengeance.

The words of Psalm 37:7-9 are helpful to me: “Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. [8] Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret–it leads only to evil. [9] For evil men will be cut off, but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land.” When we look to the New Testament for direction, two passage stand out: Matthew 5:38-48 and Romans 12:17-21. Take the time to read both of them carefully.

I have known people who have been controlled by their vengeful spirit, and appear to be living only to satisfy that vengeance. Without exception, such people are absolutely miserable, and if they live to see their vengeanceful spirit satisfied, they are still not at peace. Jesus’ way is a better way. I remember a woman I knew when we lived in the Northwest whose husband had been killed by a drunk driver, and her child crippled for life. Yet she went to the man in jail who had caused such calamity in her family and persuaded him to study the Bible. She was definitely imitating Jesus on this one.

Romans 13:1-5 teaches that the government has the right to take life in the pursuit of legal justice. The real challenge here is what we think we can or should do as individual disciples. The war question is a big one, but whether we can as disciples be involved or not, the government has the right to take life – that much is sure. What I’m concerned about are our attitudes right now – anger, hatred, and bitterness, even on the part of disciples! However, I do want our society protected, which will require what our government has vowed to do and is now doing in retaliation.

What does God desire that we learn from our current situation? He wants us to be sobered, examine our own lives and get our priorities straight. What if we had been on the airplane? Would we have felt ready to meet our Maker? As we face the future with its uncertainties, we have to get our attitudes straight. In Isaiah 8:13-14, the prophet says: “The Lord Almighty is the one you are to regard as holy, he is the one you are to fear, he is the one you are to dread, and he will be a sanctuary.” In other words, if we fear God in the right way, we need no longer fear man. Our times are in the Lord’s hands, and “all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be” (Psalm 139:16).

The need for prayer is huge right now, for God definitely wants us to go to him. People directly affected by the events of September 11 need our prayers. Our sister, Lauren Peters, in the New Hampshire Region, lost her dad on United Flight #175. She and her family will need ongoing support and encouragement. When the Memorial Service for him ended, the adjustments were just starting. Prayers for our government officials should be daily (1 Timothy 2:1-4). We need to be in the Bible, gaining the comfort that God offers us (Read Psalm 43). He wants us to get help from others in working through our feelings. The consistent thing that all counselors and psychologists are saying is that people must talk. Fear and stress are causing family tensions and conflicts – we must talk it out and pray it out. We must continue to help our children with their feelings and fears, and we have many resources now available to guide us in meeting this need.

Overall, God wants us to trust him for the bigger picture. He always is working things toward spiritual ends (Romans 8:28). I have been perplexed for years about how God will open up the Mideast to the gospel. Apartheid fell in South Africa; the Berlin Wall in Germany; and the Iron Curtain in the Soviet Union. But only God knows how the walls in the Mideast are going to fall. Prayerfully, the current events in connection with the terrorist attacks on America are a part of the answer.

One thing is certain for God’s people: he wants us to love and serve others. Not only must we love our enemies, we must be careful about assuming who they are! Prejudice and stereotyping is a dangerous thing. All from the Mideast, and all from the Muslim religion, are not in harmony with the radical terrorist extremists, any more than all who claim allegiance to the Christian faith are like the Davidians of Waco. Although we do not agree with the mainline Muslim teaching, it is not responsible for the atrocities of September 11. The Blacks and Hispanics have been exposed to racial stereotyping for years; let’s not widen that unrighteous circle. Keep in mind that a number of Muslims also lost their lives in the recent attacks.

God’s love for people is real, and he wants us to share that with them. I think of all who lost their lives and wonder how many were shared with, and perhaps more poignantly, I wonder how many could have been shared with and were not! As workers in New York City were digging feverishly right after the tragedy, hoping to find one person alive out of the hundreds and thousands dead, I couldn’t help but wonder how hard are we were digging for souls? How many negative results are we willing to endure and keep digging, looking for just one open person? It is time for us to be “blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe” (Philippians 2:15). Let us love one another as disciples of Jesus, appreciating each other and each day as never before. And let us dedicate ourselves to sharing this love with the lost with more zeal than ever.

In thinking back to the events of September 11, I have tried to give you some answers, but answers will never fully satisfy nor will they take away the pain and horror of all that’s happened. I am reminded of what I wrote in the Epilogue of my Victory of Surrender book. I said that some things I may come to understand; some things I may never understand; but the one thing I must understand is that God is a loving God and is in control of all that happens in our world. That has to be our heart in this circumstance – learn what you can and do all you can, while fighting to deepen your trust in God. And to him be the glory!

—Gordon Ferguson (October 2001)

What Happens When We Die?

Introduction

Probably all religious people have questions about what happens when we die.  Many of them believe that we cease to exist at death until the resurrection at the end of time.  Some of the people in this category believe this doctrine simply through a basic ignorance of what the Bible teaches about the subject. Others who believe the soul cessation doctrine are a part of groups with specific teachings designed to substantiate their views.  Among these groups are the Jehovah’s Witnesses, Seventh Day Adventists and others.

Perhaps more pertinent to many of us is the idea that we go directly to heaven when we die.  Certainly Paul talked about dying and being with the Lord (2 Corinthians 5:8), but does that really mean that we go to heaven at death?  If so, this would mean that we would return at the resurrection to be re-united with our body (changed into a spiritual body), and then face Judgment.  That would seem a rather strange sequence of events, and perhaps a bit anticlimactic.  Of course, the issue is not what seems good or bad to us, but rather what the Bible actually teaches.  The purpose of this study is to determine in somewhat of a comprehensive manner what the Bible does teach about the subject of what happens immediately at our death.

Those who mistakenly believe that the “sleep” of death (1 Corinthians 15:51) includes both body and spirit often come to this conclusion because of a limited knowledge biblically.  For example, a failure to understand the background purpose of the Book of Ecclesiastes leads to inaccurate conclusions about this subject.  The background is that the author is showing that “life under the sun” is meaningless, in contrast to life viewed with heaven’s perspective, which is meaningful.  Yet a cursory reading of the book can lead to confusion.

Note some of the statements in Ecclesiastes about the nature of man which seem to teach the “soul sleep” doctrine.  “Who knows if the spirit of man rises upward and if the spirit of the animal goes down into the earth (3:21)?”  “For the living know that they will die, but the dead know nothing; they have no further reward, and even the memory of them is forgotten (9:5).”  If the passages are allowed to stand alone, without knowing the context of them, it would be natural to assume that man has no conscious existence apart from the body.  However, the whole of biblical teaching on the subject cannot be harmonized with this view, as even Ecclesiastes will show.  Consider the writer’s comments in chapter 12, as he is now moving to his conclusion – the necessity of gaining a spiritual perspective of life and not simply “life under the sun” (verses 12-13).  He writes: “and the dust returns to the ground it came from, and the spirit returns to God who gave it” (12:7).

 

Coming To Terms With Terms

The JW’s often go back to Genesis 2:7 in developing their doctrine, which reads:  “And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul” (King James Version).  They go on show that the same Hebrew word translated “soul” here (nephesh) is used in other places in reference to animals.  For example, Genesis 2:19 states:  “Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.”  Here, creature is from nephesh.  So the JW argument is that man does not have a soul; he is a soul.

Of course, the Hebrew word nephesh, and the Greek equivalent, psuche, can be used simply to denote the animate life of God’s creatures.  But it can also be used to denote the inner being of man which is unique to him of all God’s creatures, and which survives the body at death.  In this usage, it refers to what the Bible also calls “spirit.”  Of course, spirit is another word with variations of meaning, but one clear meaning it connotes is the inner part of man made in God’s image.  God is spirit, and when Genesis 1:26 informs us that man was created in God’s image, it must of necessity refer to this nature.  Sometimes the terms soul and spirit are used interchangeably in the OT (Job 7:11; Isaiah 26:9), and twice in the NT, soul and spirit are differentiated (1 Thessalonians 5:34; Hebrews 4:12).  In the latter instance, the soul would refer simply to the animate life which all creatures share and the spirit would refer to the spiritual part of us made in God’s image.

We noted earlier that our spirit returns to God at death.  Zechariah 12:1 and Hebrews 12:9 inform us that God is the father of our spirits.  In the Hebrews passage, the writer contrasts our earthly fathers, from whom we receive our physical bodies through the act of procreation, and God, the father of our spirits.  Therefore, the part of us given directly by God that results in our being made in his image is the part that lives past our physical death.  As James 2:26 says, “the body without the spirit is dead.”  He does not say that the spirit without the body is dead.  When death occurs, the spirit simply leaves the body.  In this vein, note the wording of Genesis 35:18 in the New American Standard Version (which is literal in its use of the word “soul” here):  “And it came about as her soul was departing (for she died), that she named him Ben-oni; but his father called him Benjamin.”  The more we understand about the nature of man, the more we see that he is primarily a soul who happens to live in a body, not a body who happens to have a soul.

Life After Death in the Old Testament

In the International Standard Bible Encyclopedia (ISBE), the writer of the article “Death” had this to say:  “For we are influenced always more or less by the Greek, Platonic idea, that the body dies, yet the soul is immortal. Such an idea is utterly contrary to the Israelite consciousness, and is nowhere found in the Old Testament.”  This statement reflects a common sentiment, but is it really true?  I don’t think so, although the lack of a developed OT doctrine of life after death would not necessarily militate against the NT developing such a doctrine. Two other word usages are important to us at this juncture, the OT sheol and the Greek hades.  Sheol is most often translated “grave” in the NIV, and hades is often translated the same.  But other literal translations such as the NAS most often render both words as they are, in a transliterated state, simply out of the ambiguity involved.  Interestingly, another article in ISBE by another author, under the heading “Hades,” gives a different slant on the subject:

The Greek conception of Hades was that of a locality receiving into itself all the dead, but divided into two regions, one a place of torment, the other of blessedness. This conception should not be rashly transferred to the New Testament, for the latter stands not under the influence of Greek pagan belief, but gives a teaching and reflects a belief which model their idea of Hades upon the Old Testament through the Septuagint. The Old Testament Sheol, while formally resembling the Greek Hades in that it is the common receptacle of all the dead, differs from it, on the one hand, by the absence of a clearly defined division into two parts, and, on the other hand, by the emphasis placed on its association with death and the grave as abnormal facts following in the wake of sin. The Old Testament thus concentrates the partial light it throws on the state after death on the negative, undesirable side of the prospect apart from redemption.

Certainly the OT teaches life after death (Psalm 73:24), which could refer only to the resurrected state.  The Ecclesiastes 12:7 passage quoted earlier, along with Psalm 90:10 and its reference to our “flying away” when our lives end, seem to point in a different direction.  Therefore, while it certainly cannot be argued that the OT teaches clearly a doctrine of life immediately after death, the doctrine may be deduced from other vantage points.

One, an interesting phraseology is that used to describe death as being “gathered to his people.”  Note what Jacob said to his family when his death approached:  “Then he gave them these instructions: ‘I am about to be gathered to my people. Bury me with my fathers in the cave in the field of Ephron the Hittite’” (Genesis 49:29).  A few verses later, the record says:  “When Jacob had finished giving instructions to his sons, he drew his feet up into the bed, breathed his last and was gathered to his people” (Genesis 49:33).  In Genesis 50:5, Joseph equates being “gathered to his people” with simply dying.  The following verses inform us that Jacob’s body was embalmed for forty days, transported to Canaan, during which time an additional seven day period of mourning was observed, and finally buried.  Whatever else may be said, being gathered to one’s people was not simply a reference to the grave.  The more likely reference is to the intermediate state after physical death and before the Judgment Day.

Two, Psalm 16 is clearly a Messianic Psalm, and verses 8-11 are quoted in Acts 2:25-28.  Verses 26-27 read as follows:  “Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices; my body also will live in hope, because you will not abandon me to the grave, nor will you let your Holy One see decay.”  The word “grave” here is from hades, and Jesus not seeing decay physically is different from being abandoned to hades.  When he died, his spirit did evidently go to hades while his body was in the tomb.  (The KJV confuses the issue with its translation “thou wilt not leave my soul in hell.”)  Likely 1 Peter 3:18-20 refers to this same event in Christ’s life, but the exact interpretation of it is more difficult to grasp.  This passage reads:

For Christ died for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God. He was put to death in the body but made alive by the Spirit, [19] through whom also he went and preached to the spirits in prison [20] who disobeyed long ago when God waited patiently in the days of Noah while the ark was being built…

But what does 1 Peter 3 teach?  Two explanations seem most plausible.  First, Peter is saying that Jesus was put to death in the body but then raised from the dead by the Holy Spirit.  In fact, it was through the Holy Spirit (the Spirit of Christ, (1 Peter 1:11) that Jesus once preached (in the person of Noah) to the wicked people before the flood. At the present time, however, these same disobedient people are in prison (the bad side of hades). Second, Jesus was put to death in the body but made alive in his spirit (or soul). While Jesus was in the Hadean spirit world, he made a proclamation of victory to that generation from Noah’s day who had been so flagrantly disobedient. (The word preached in verse 19 is from the Greek kerusso, meaning to herald or proclaim, and not from euaggelizomai, meaning to preach the gospel.) The lesson in this case was to show that God will always have the last word over even the worst persecutors! Given the context of the passage, the second view seems most likely to me, and although Jacoby once preferred the former (Life to the Full, 85-88), he now prefers the latter (Questions and Answers book, published in 2001).

Three, another OT event is alluded to in the NT, a very pertinent passage on the subject – Matthew 22:23-32.  Here Jesus was talking to the Sadducees about the resurrection.  It seems that this sect of Jews had a long-standing debate with the Pharisees about the resurrection.  Luke’s comment in Acts 23:8 succinctly shows the differences in the two beliefs:  “The Sadducees say that there is no resurrection, and that there are neither angels nor spirits, but the Pharisees acknowledge them all.”  The Pharisee’s view of the resurrection was flawed, since they thought that we would be resurrected simply in a body like the one we had and would carry on life much as it had been before.  No doubt they were constantly filled with consternation as they tried to answer the Sadducees about the woman with seven husbands.  They would have had no problem envisioning a man with seven wives, but never the opposite!

Jesus showed that both groups were wrong.  “Jesus replied, ‘You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. [30] At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. [31] But about the resurrection of the dead–have you not read what God said to you, [32] ‘I am the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob?’ He is not the God of the dead but of the living’” (Matthew 22:29-32).  His argument was based on the tense of a verb:  “I am the God…” rather than “I was the God…”  Had these patriarchs not been living in some form at the time, Jesus could not have used the present tense.  Of course, Jesus also taught in many passages the resurrection of the body at the last day, but he also taught that the spirit was alive after the body had died.

New Testament Considerations

Once we come to the NT, many passages show that physical death is not the end of the matter (although it is the end of our matter in a physical sense!).  Our soul or spirit definitely survives death.  Matthew 10:28 could hardly be plainer on this point:  “Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell.”  Revelation 6:9-10, although found in a symbolic book, has something to say on the subject:  “When he opened the fifth seal, I saw under the altar the souls of those who had been slain because of the word of God and the testimony they had maintained. [10] They called out in a loud voice, ‘How long, Sovereign Lord, holy and true, until you judge the inhabitants of the earth and avenge our blood?’”

Just before he died on the cross, he said to one thief who was also near death:  “I tell you the truth, today you will be with me in paradise” (Luke 23:43).  The passage in Luke 16:19-31 about Lazarus and the rich man after their death gives us several basic truths about life after death in an intermediate state.  One, hades is comprised of two parts – the bad side and the good side.  We would assume that the good side is the paradise of which Jesus spoke to the thief, and the bad side may be the tartarus of 2 Peter 2:4 (“For if God did not spare angels when they sinned, but sent them to hell [tartarus], putting them into gloomy dungeons to be held for judgment.”)  Two, it is a place of conscious existence.  Three, once you die, you cannot go from one side to the other.  Four, a type of judgment at the point of is presupposed.  On the latter point, Hebrews 9:27 offers further elucidation:  “Just as man is destined to die once, and after that to face judgment.”  (It should be noted that some teach that Luke 16 is a parable.  If so, it would be an unusual one, in that names are used.  But even if it were, the truths taught would still be valid, for a parable takes an evident truth and gives it a further application.  Jesus never used an untruth to teach a truth.)

As Jesus was dying, he said:  “Father, into your hands I commit my spirit” (Luke 23:46).  Similarly, it is said of Stephen:  “While they were stoning him, Stephen prayed, ‘Lord Jesus, receive my spirit’” (Acts 7:59).  The JW’s contend that the spirit of man is simply his breath, signifying his life, but the NT definitely counters this doctrine.  The spirit has the characteristic of being able to choose.  “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak” (Matthew 26:41).  The Holy Spirit can testify with our spirit:  “The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children” (Romans 8:16).  And, our spirit can know things:  “For who among men knows the thoughts of a man except the man’s spirit within him? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God” (1 Corinthians 2:11).  Therefore, when men die, their spirits return to God, the Father of their spirits.

Acts 9:36-42 contains the story of the widow Dorcas, who was raised from the dead by Peter.  In verse 37, we read:  “About that time she became sick and died, and her body was washed and placed in an upstairs room.”  Then in verse 39, we find:  “Peter went with them, and when he arrived he was taken upstairs to the room. All the widows stood around him, crying and showing him the robes and other clothing that Dorcas had made while she was still with them.”  Notice the last phrase.  Even though Dorcas’ body was right there in their midst, her friends were talking about the time when “she was still with them.”  In other words, her body was present but she was not, obviously a reference to the real her – the spirit.

Paul not only had much to say on our subject as he penned his epistles, but he recounted a personal experience that sheds further light.

    I know a man in Christ who fourteen years ago was caught up to the third heaven. Whether it was in the body or out of the body I do not know–God knows. [3] And I know that this man–whether in the body or apart from the body I do not know, but God knows– [4] was caught up to paradise. He heard inexpressible things, things that man is not permitted to tell (2 Corinthians 12:2-4).

Paul was not sure whether he was in the body or out of it when this event occurred.  Therefore, it could have been either.  All he knew for sure is that he had seen and heard things that were not of this world.  The third heaven in Jewish thinking was the realm of God’s presence.  The first heaven was where the birds flew, earth’s atmosphere, and the second heaven was the abode of the stars.  Hence, Paul may be saying that he was caught up to (as far as – heos) the third heaven, but then into (eis) paradise.  This would mean that paradise is different than heaven, although certainly related and a wonderful place to be.

Consider next the Hebrew writer’s comments about the spirits of men:  “But you have come to Mount Zion, to the heavenly Jerusalem, the city of the living God. You have come to thousands upon thousands of angels in joyful assembly, to the church of the firstborn, whose names are written in heaven. You have come to God, the judge of all men, to the spirits of righteous men made perfect” (Hebrews 12:22-23).  It seems clear that the reference here is to the righteous of the OT, who were ultimately cleansed by the death of Christ (see Hebrews 9:15).  Hebrews 11 ends with these words about the OT worthies:  “These were all commended for their faith, yet none of them received what had been promised.  God had planned something better for us so that only together with us would they be made perfect” (Hebrews 11:39-40).  From here, the writer goes on to talk about a “great cloud of witnesses” which surrounds us (12:1), which would likely include those just men made perfect.

Several other NT passages point to the survival of the spirit, the personality, when physical death occurs.

If we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord (Romans 14:8).

For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. [22] If I am to go on living in the body, this will mean fruitful labor for me. Yet what shall I choose? I do not know! [23] I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far (Philippians 1:21-23).

Therefore we are always confident and know that as long as we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord. [7] We live by faith, not by sight. [8] We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord (2 Corinthians 5:6-8).

if this is so, then the Lord knows how to rescue godly men from trials and to hold the unrighteous for the day of judgment, while continuing their punishment (2 Peter 2:9).

In conclusion, the Bible does teach that man’s inner being does not die at his physical death.  (A related issue is whether the wicked do cease to exist after suffering adequately for their sins, but that is another study.  Douglas Jacoby and Tom Jones have both written articles taking this position, and they convinced me.)  It continues to exist in some state awaiting the final resurrection of the body, which in essence constitutes the re-uniting of the soul with a body, a spiritual body.  Just what that intermediate state is like, we are told little or nothing.  But for that matter, what are we really told about the final state of heaven?  I seriously doubt that the “streets of gold” and “gates of pearl” are quite it!  In one sense, life after death, whatever the state, is so unique to our physical realm that we will not understand much about it until we are there.  But let’s not allow our conclusions to be either uninformed biblically or reactionary.  The Greek teaching that life after death consisted only of the spirit traces back to their disdain of anything material.  The biblical teaching of life after death, first in the spirit, and finally in a spiritual body, is quite a different issue.  We cannot let our rejection of Greek philosophy on this point color our interpretation of the Bible itself.  The Greeks were part correct and part incorrect.  Let’s not throw out the truth when throwing out the error. With Paul, let us be confident that departing this body to be with Christ is very far better than anything this life has to offer!

—Gordon Ferguson (January 2000)

Motivation—A Deeper Look

Part 1 — Guilt or Grace?

Part 2 — Correction or Inspiration?

Introduction to Part 1

In Christianity, motivation is everything! If this statement is an example of hyperbole (an overstatement to make a point), it is only slightly so. God is not nearly as interested in our actions as he is in the motivation behind these actions. Of course, actions (obedience) are in no way optional, but they mean little to God unless they spring from our hearts. We can do the deeds of a servant without having the heart of a servant, but if we have the heart of a servant, we will do the deeds of a servant.

In a broad sense, our primary motivation in the spiritual realm tends to fall into one of two categories: guilt or grace. Which has been your dominant motivation? What has been our most dominant motivation as a movement? Good questions, don’t you think? Some important principles regarding this subject have been dawning on me recently, principles that I believe have huge implications for who we are as a movement. The motivational principles we have used are tied inseparably to our philosophy of preaching and teaching. Without understanding these issues, we will not be able to make the deeper changes that I am convinced God is calling us to make. Although I don’t claim to have all of the answers to our problems, I do believe that the material in this article is some of the most significant I have written in a long time. I simply ask you to read it carefully and prayerfully, and for doing this I thank you in advance.

Do We Have a Philosophy of Preaching and Teaching?

This is a good place to begin, for many who preach may not be aware that they even have a philosophy of preaching.[1] This is a subject hardly discussed among us, at least as far as my experience dictates. Perhaps we don’t think we need a philosophy, since we claim only to follow the Bible. However, the Bible is a big book, consisting of 66 books, 1,189 chapters and about 31,273 verses. Just saying that we preach the Bible doesn’t prove much. The choices that we make about what to preach from the Bible, the approach we use in preaching it and the manner in which we deliver the message all have to do with our philosophy of preaching. Rest assured that all who preach regularly have a philosophy, whether we realize that we have one or not. Without definition and understanding, our philosophy may not serve us effectively, or worse, it may actually hurt us and those to whom we preach.

For example, a wrong philosophy of preaching and teaching can lead us to slant our interpretations of Scriptures. Our goal is exegesis, which means to give a correct interpretation of a text – to “read out” of it exactly what God put into it. A wrong philosophy often leads us to practice eisegesis – to “read into” the text our own ideas. Picture this church service setting: the young minister is preaching from a text and making a point that reflects his philosophy of preaching, but it doesn’t reflect the actual meaning of the text. He is guilty of eisegesis, without being aware of it. The newer Christians in the audience are awestruck, as they think to themselves, “Wow, I didn’t see that point in the text; our preacher is really a smart guy who can dig out the deeper truths of the Bible!” The older Christians in the audience keep looking down at their Bibles after the preacher has moved on to his next point, and they are thinking, “Here we go again. Our minister is trying to make his point with a text that doesn’t make his point. Will our preachers ever learn enough about the Bible to teach it accurately instead of using it to bolster their preconceived ideas?” For a variety of reasons, leaders have been experiencing a lowered trust level from those whom we lead, and how we have handled the Bible is one of those reasons.

Since we admittedly don’t have much of a defined philosophy, what can be known about it? Perhaps not too much, but one thing can be said – it is largely a performance-based philosophy. This much seems certain. Being performance based, it is by definition also human based. As a mainline Church of Christ minister said on a panel recently, both their group and ours have substituted the message of our particular movement for the message of Christ. In their group, the message has been correct doctrine; in ours, it has been correct results (growth). Thus, we have preached too much about man and too little about God. As I have stated previously in other settings, I think our preaching overall has been such that we have erred in a way similar to the Galatians, in preaching a different gospel. This is a strong charge, and not a popular one with everyone, but I believe it is correct. Our preaching and teaching is a serious matter to our God, and unless we understand the philosophy behind it, we are in danger of continuing to preach an incomplete gospel or even a distorted gospel. Make no mistake about it, we as a movement definitely have a philosophy of preaching. But from whence did it come? This leads us to the next question.

How Did Our Philosophy Develop?

Let me say at the outset that certain biblical subjects are more difficult to grasp than others, being more complex. For example, a built-in tension exists between the foreknowledge of God and the free moral agency of man. It is challenging for us finite humans to understand how God can know the end from the beginning about everything, including our individual lives, and not somehow short circuit our personal choices. But both ends of that spectrum are clearly affirmed in Scripture. Similarly, a tension between God’s grace and man’s obedience can be felt as we study these subjects. Obedience is not an optional matter for people of faith. Many blessings from God (his grace) are stated in conditional terms: if…then; if not…then not. If we obey, then God will bless us. If we do not obey, he will not bless us. Yet, we are ultimately blessed because of God’s grace, not because of our works. Harmonizing both ends of this spectrum is not always easy. (My best efforts to do so are found in my exposition, Romans: the Heart Set Free. My harmonization of these two elements satisfies me, and perhaps it will you.) My point here is that the tension inherent in our philosophy of preaching is somewhat understandable, but unless understood and addressed correctly, it may well result in unbiblical preaching.

In order to understand our philosophy of preaching, a historical perspective is essential. In delving into our historical and theological roots, my purpose is not to be negatively critical, but simply to help us learn from our history. Otherwise, we will repeat the bad elements of it, along with the good (and there is much good). When we talk about the bad elements of our movement, it should be noted that not every church or every leader is guilty of the same thing, and when guilty, not guilty to the same degree. A lack of discernment regarding this observation leads to overreactions, such as those observed among us in 2003. However, in looking at our movement as a whole, certain things may be observed to be absolutely true.

Every person is a product of his or her environment, in good and bad ways. We either imitate (consciously or unconsciously) what we have been around or we react against it. The same may be said of all movements, for they either bear the stamp of what spawned them or they rebel against it. The concept of dialectical progression articulated by Georg Hegel, a nineteenth-century philosopher, seems more right than wrong when applied to movements historically. His view is often described in terms of this reactionary pattern: thesis – antithesis – synthesis, with the synthesis becoming the new thesis as the process continues. The stronger the reaction (“antithesis”) against the status quo (“thesis”), the more the movement becomes defined by its differences with its source. In the case of our current movement, we have been defined in many ways by our reactions. We have seen ourselves as a radical group, standing against the tide of lukewarm, compromised religion. Of course, there is great value in this, but also the potential for over-reacting to what we are in the process of rejecting.

Most notably, we have been a reactionary group against what we have termed the “Mainline Church of Christ,” with many of the reactions dating back to campus ministry days, commonly called the “Crossroads Era.” By the way, what I say here about the mainline church is not intended to pass judgment on that group today, for I am not too conversant with where they now stand on many issues. My observations trace back to what I experienced and observed personally during the period under consideration (1960s to 1980s). In that period, campus ministers established campus ministries under the umbrella of existing Churches of Christ and fought many battles trying to work with those whose traditional mindsets often did not allow anything resembling peaceful co-existence. This is not to say that campus ministers did not make many mistakes themselves that led to their own sins and set up the potential for future overreactions in developing their later ministries. They had zeal without experience in dealing with the circumstances they faced. In retrospect, I think the young campus ministers and older mainline leaders were about equally at fault in the tensions and divisions that came about during those days. However, I place the greater responsibility on the older leaders, who reacted against the younger ones instead of patiently continuing to try to help them. Jesus had a couple of young leaders who wanted to burn down a city, but he kept working with them until they matured. Almost all young leaders are going to make mistakes of misapplied zeal, and older leaders are going to have to be like Jesus to help them mature. But regardless of blame, the scenario was set for overreactions on the part of younger campus ministers.

The reactions in this case were sometimes obvious and sometimes subtle. One of the more obvious was the emphasis on numerical growth in comparison to a group with little growth. I have heard many sermons preached among us, especially in the early days, in which growth statistics from the mainline Churches of Christ were quoted to show how poorly they were doing evangelistically. Because these churches persecuted the fledgling campus ministry movement, the reaction was something like: “We will show you!” The continued (though now only occasional) usage of these same statistics through two decades demonstrates the strength of the reaction. Certainly we ought to focus on converting people and growing numerically, but for biblical reasons instead of reactionary ones.

Due to the makeup of many of those churches, other reactions occurred that are more subtle, and for that reason, potentially more harmful. A lack of trust for people in two basic categories can be traced back to that earlier setting, for somewhat understandable reasons. First, the average members of those groups were viewed as being lukewarm. Thus, they could not be relied on to help carry out the mission of evangelism in any serious way, and in fact often resisted the efforts of those in the campus ministry who were evangelizing in ways that were new and threatening to them. The problem is that some who began their career as young leaders in those situations still have a residual lack of trust for members in our churches, however subtle the suspicions may be. Suffice it to say that Romans 15:14 has been preached more than practiced by some of us. It reads: “I myself am convinced, my brothers, that you yourselves are full of goodness, complete in knowledge and competent to instruct one another.”

Second, leaders of those traditional churches were not to be trusted, for they quite often represented the opposition as persecutors. In those churches, elders were unquestionably the leaders in control, and for this reason they were to be trusted least. The carryover into our movement in terms of mistrusting elders cannot be denied. The highly influential role of elders in the NT church has not yet been duplicated in our movement, although some progress has been made in recent years. The current clamor in the wake of Henry Kriete’s letter has produced more change in the role of the elder than the Bible produced in prior years – to our shame.

Leadership style in our movement is another phenomenon that has been influenced significantly by those campus ministry days. In planting a new church or working in youth groups, including campus ministries, the leader is the “go to” person by design. As disciples age, they must be treated in age-appropriate ways, which should include leaders developing leadership groups instead of remaining one-man, top-down leaders. We have been extremely slow to learn this needed lesson, as the Golden Rule Leadership book emphasizes repeatedly. Without rehashing the point, the campus ministry era influenced our leadership style in ways that simply must be changed if we are to move forward effectively, especially in older, larger churches.

Tying together the previous three principles – focus on numerical growth, lack of trust and leadership style – the definition of the role of the evangelist was thus strongly influenced. To make sure that members (who are at least subtly mistrusted) will evangelize, the controlling type of leader feels that he must preach strongly and often on the need for evangelism or else the average person will not evangelize. Hence, the “push” mentality was built into the system from the beginning. Never mind that you cannot find this kind of motivation for evangelism in the New Testament, those basic assumptions unquestionably drove the preaching approach and biblical diet offered by the “forceful” leader. They were the foundation for his philosophy of preaching. Over shorter periods of time, this type of motivation for evangelism has produced some pretty impressive results. Over longer periods, the effectiveness in producing growth and spiritual health has waned in predictable ways. Our older, larger churches have slowed in growth, not because they are either older or larger, but because something has been amiss in our motivational approaches. Wrong motivation affects people much like taking drugs affects them – it takes a stronger and stronger “hit” to get the same results, until you reach a point when the same results can no longer be achieved, no matter how strong the “hit.”

The motivation in the Bible is primarily relational in nature: love for God and love for one another in the kingdom. Outreach to non-disciples appears to have been based on a natural approach of sharing with friends and family what was truly good news to the disciples. Evangelism seems to have been more of a by-product than the result of specific, repeated emphasis in preaching and teaching. It seems that the principles of John 13:34-35 really worked, as those in the world were attracted by the love they saw among the disciples. Happy Christians are good advertisement! Many of our Christians are not too happy, precisely because of the preaching and teaching they receive – an applied pressure to do what new Christians usually do naturally. An elder’s wife made this comment several years back: “In our basic conversion studies with people, we stress that they are becoming a part of a loving family; shortly after baptism, they wake up feeling that they are in an army with very strong marching orders.” This prevailing emphasis must be based on one of three assumptions regarding the NT record: either the early church leaders preached as we do, although this is not found in the record; or our needs are very different from those of first century Christians; or we have figured out something that they did not. A fair amount of arrogance would be required to adopt any of these assumptions.

Another reaction to the mainline church also influenced our philosophy of preaching, namely the use of strong confrontational approaches in both individual and congregational settings. The mainline church was admittedly not very direct in confronting sins, thus falling short of “speaking the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15). In reaction, some leaders among us evidently felt that almost any talk of a serious spiritual nature, private or public, had to be capped off with strong challenges to insure that remorse and repentance were produced. The common “good point, bad point” approach used in discipleship groups found many other applications in private and public settings. The end result was that disciples were sometimes treated in ways that no thinking parent would treat his or her own children. We are all in need of much encouragement, and when encouragement is replaced or diluted significantly by challenges, spiritual insecurity is going to be produced. As much as challenge may be needed at times, Jesus’ admonition in Revelation 3:19 (“Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline”) is hardly intended to be the main ingredient in a diet of love. (Make sure you understand the context of Jesus’ words in this text.) Thankfully, God’s kindness is his favorite way of leading us to repentance (Romans 2:4), and we would do well to imitate him in our approach with others.

Our philosophy of preaching has been influenced more by our roots than we might imagine, and unless we understand our history, we are not likely to change. Once understood, we are in a position to replace bad philosophy with good philosophy. What is good philosophy? This leads to the next question.

What Should Be Our Philosophy?

I recently had a very thought-provoking conversation with an old friend who has a good Bible background and a very spiritual mindset. Although not a member of our movement, he knew some things about us and had visited our services a couple of times. He asked me a probing question, something to the effect of how much we really believe in grace. His query caused me to do some serious thinking and to develop perhaps a new insight, or at least a new way of looking at an old subject. I told him that we have always preached some on the topic of grace. I have personally been invited to many churches, including some of our larger ones like Chicago, Los Angeles and Dallas, to teach and preach on the subject of grace, principally through the book of Romans (my favorite book in the Bible). I have never had anyone in our movement object to anything I preached about grace. We believe in the subject of grace – but this is not the end of the matter.

My insight was this: while we have been receptive to preaching on grace, it has been one subject among many, rather than the foundation out of which all other subjects are preached. Herein lies our weakness and failure. Grace must be (or become) the window through which we view all other biblical subjects. It must color how we preach everything. I just finished reading Tom Jones’ excellent new book, Strong in the Grace, and he stated the same principle this way: “The theme of this book is that the gospel of God’s grace is the trunk of the tree and that any effort to restore God’s work in the world must begin with the greatest emphasis on this grace – the only hope of freedom from sin and fellowship with God.”[2] He goes on to say that all other biblical subjects are limbs in that trunk, but that they receive their strength and meaning from the trunk itself.

We know how to preach about needed effects well, but we don’t have a good grasp on how to bring about those effects. We are too focused on results, not causes. For example, what would you do for a church (or person) that has really lost much of its faith? Our inclination would be to select a text like Hebrews 11:6: “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.” Then we might focus on the need to get faith, or else God will not be pleased with us. But is this how faith is produced – by demanding it? I think not. In fact this approach may diminish the little faith the weak person has, and cause him to lose yet more hope for himself. The answer would lie in preaching lessons that give him faith – not demand it. All of the results we are trying to produce can only come when we understand how to affect people’s hearts and make them want to change and to help them see how great their God is who is going to help them change. It’s all about God, not about man. We don’t simply need sermons calling for more evangelism; we need sermons about developing the heart of our God toward those who have no relationship with their heavenly Father. If we get his heart, we will do his bidding. It’s all about Christ, not about us, and knowing Christ in a growing, exciting way changes us. About the only motivation that works for me anymore is trying to get into the heart of God, to imitate his Son. Show me Jesus and call me to follow him by imitating his heart, and I have a much better chance of doing the works he did.

Some people might feel that singling out any teaching of the Bible as the most fundamental is questionable. After all, God revealed it all and inspired men to write it down. Why should one teaching be exalted over any other, since it is all God’s Word? That’s a fair question, but one not difficult to answer. In Matthew 23:23, Jesus spoke about the more important matters of the law, namely “justice, mercy and faithfulness.” The other matters that he mentioned were not unimportant, but they certainly were not as important. The subject of grace is inseparably connected to what Jesus called the greatest commandment in the Law. In Matthew 22:37-40, we read: “Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (For additional reading regarding the centrality of certain teachings, see the article by Jeff Chacon, “An Aid To Discerning the Scriptures,” on the website www.douglasjacoby.com.)

Loving God with our whole being is the most fundamental teaching in Scripture – Old or New Testament. How can we rise to such a lofty challenge? John helps us understand this question, as he writes in 1 John 4:19, “We love because he first loved us.” Understanding the depth of his love for us becomes the key to our loving him and loving others with our whole being. Simply stated, we can never become what God calls us to be without understanding and emotionally accepting his unbelievable love for us individually. Is this not the sentiment that lays behind Paul’s intense prayer in Ephesians 3:16-19? “I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”

I am by no means talking about anything that resembles “grace only” or “cheap grace.” Quite the contrary. Grace, properly understood and applied, motivates us to work harder than we ever would through any other means. Paul provides us with proof of this principle in his own life, as he wrote: “But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them—yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me” (1 Corinthians 15:10). Certainly other motivations can be found in Scripture, and they all have their place, but they must be subservient to this one. For example, Proverbs 1:7 tells us that “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge,” but it should not be the end of it, for loving him with our heart, soul, mind and strength is the aim of it all. And we love because he first loved us (1 John 4:19). If “mercy triumphs over judgment” (James 2:13), then our view of God must be weighted toward his grace, and not toward his judgment.

It boils down to having the right focus, but also to our attitudes in delivering lessons with this focus. I remember an anecdote about a church seeking a pulpit minister. They had two prospective ministers “try out” on two successive weeks. One was hired and the other wasn’t. The preacher who wasn’t hired called the chairman of the search committee and asked why he had not been hired. The chairman informed him that both he and the other applicant had preached on the subject of hell, but the one who was hired seemed far more engaged in pleading with them not to go, rather than just issuing a warning about the dangers of going.

This little story (assumedly fiction) reminds me of something that actually happened to me when I first started preaching. After delivering a strong, challenging sermon, an older church member said to me, “Well, Preacher, you left us bleeding today!” He actually meant that as a compliment, but his comment struck a dissonant chord with me. I did leave them bleeding by exposing their sins but giving little help with healing and overcoming those sins. In those days, I came to be known as something of a “hatchet man,” whose invitations to speak at conferences usually meant being assigned subjects like sin and repentance. Of course, we must speak clearly and forcefully on those subjects, but the approach we take when doing so is the real issue. In looking back at my early preaching (and some not-so-early preaching), I am not proud of my approach. During my last few months in Boston, I preached a lesson about God’s love, in which I recalled how John the apostle changed from a “son of thunder” to the great apostle of love. After that sermon, one dear sister told me that my years in Boston demonstrated a similar change in me. Considering that I was in my mid-forties when I came to Boston, this change was much later in coming than it should have been.

My wife, Theresa, has an approach to giving corrections in counseling or discipling that demonstrates the right principle. It is based on the approach that Paul took in writing most of his letters. He almost always started out very positive and encouraging, moved next to the corrections needed, and ended up once again being positive and encouraging. Theresa calls this approach her “love sandwich.” She expresses lots of love, gives any correction needed, and closes with expressions of much love and faith in the person’s desire and ability to make changes. She is one of the most lovingly patient people I have ever known, and her record of helping scores of women grow and change is truly exemplary.

What has been said about grace and sin does not mean that preaching on sin is unimportant. It is essential. Recently I was teaching and preaching in another church, doing some staff training and teaching the whole congregation as well. After a couple of days, the local evangelist told me that he had been somewhat apprehensive and even suspicious about how I would deal with the sins in the church that needed to be addressed. However, after he heard me, he said that he felt like a wimp by comparison! I preached about sin strongly and hopefully was used by God as an instrument to convict many and to help them change. The manner in which I preached is the issue. I repeatedly expressed my love for them, and I wept as I pleaded with the church to repent. I tried to help them see God’s love for them as the foundation for change. I want my philosophy to have God at the center – but as a loving Father.

We have seen God too much as a Judge and Master (which he is), and not enough as a Friend and Father. Many of us seem to feel that his love toward us is conditional upon our performance. Hence, he turns away from us in disdain when we are doing poorly spiritually, but turns back to embrace us once we are doing better. The opposite is much more accurate. When we are at our worst, he is most focused on loving us and helping us. Any parent among us knows that this is how we are with our own children. When they are doing well, we can go about our business, but when they are doing poorly, we can’t keep our minds and hearts off of them. Their pain becomes our pain, and we are driven to do all that we can to help them. Why are we this way? Because we are made in the image of God, the ultimate and perfect Parent. He seeks us out most when we are doing our worst, not vice versa.

God hates sin in our lives. Why? Because it hurts us. His concern is the same as any parent for his child – he wants us to live joyous, fulfilled lives, and sin interferes with that. Our view of God is hugely important. Our understanding of his view of us is hugely important. Our understanding of his view of the church is all tied up in this – he feels toward the church collectively what he feels toward his children individually. His desire is for a close personal relationship with us, not a business relationship. He is most interested in us, not in our performance. Our value to him is based on our being in a relationship with him, being his child. As a father and grandfather, I understand this principle pretty well. New babies are of great value to their parents and grandparents. Why? Certainly not because of their performance. About all that their performance yields is sounds and smells! They are valued so highly because they are a part of us – our offspring. God values us so highly because we are a part of him —his offspring, made in his image.

But is not God the Master and Judge? Of course, but that is a subject among subjects, not the foundation for our view of him. Think of it this way. We fathers wear many “hats” within our families. To my children, I have been a disciplinarian, a teacher, and an administrator, among other things. When I am dead and gone, what do I want them to remember most about me? That’s pretty simple to answer, don’t you think? I want them to remember me as a father who loved them with all of my heart, and would have died for them. Surely they needed me to serve them with those other “hats” on at times, but what they most needed to see and feel was my father’s heart. Surely God wants us to see him in much the same way – not primarily as Master, Judge or Lawgiver – but as Father! In John 13:13, he said: “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am.” Even here, as Master, what had he just done? Acted as a servant and washed his own disciples’ feet. The greatest of all really is the servant of all. Even his definition of master is different from ours. But the clincher is found in John 15:15: “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” This passage contains lessons about team leadership, as well as lessons about the nature of the relationship that God wants with us.

Other biblical analogies have much to teach us about these matters. The marriage relationship between God and his people is a good one. Biblically, Christians are married to Christ (Romans 7:4; 2 Corinthians 11:2; Ephesians 5:31-32). As a happily married husband of nearly 40 years, I think I have a fair grasp on what this analogy is designed to teach. When I arise in the morning, I don’t start thinking, “I hope Theresa does all the things for me that I think she should for a change,” and then mentally start going down some check-list of her duties. I just want to see her, to be with her, to talk with her. She is my delight, and as the song by Joshua Kadison says, “she will always be beautiful in my eyes.” I am not thinking about her serving me; I’m thinking about her loving me. Of course, because she does love me she will do many things to serve me, and I her, but neither of us is focused on the doing. We are focused on the being – being in love! Do you think Jesus is a different kind of husband than me? Frankly, he is much more focused on serving you than on you serving him. We are so conditioned to feel good when we perform well and badly when we do not – which is understandable, to a point. But as disciples, this condition often translates to us feeling saved when we perform well and lost when we do not. Obviously, I feel badly when my relationship with my wife goes awry, but I don’t feel unmarried!

Probably the most used biblical analogy portraying our relationship with God is that of a Father with his children. Again, since I have two grown children whom I love dearly (along with their awesome mates), I understand the analogy. When I go to visit them, I am not thinking of all that they ought to do for me. I am much more focused on what I want to do for them, because I love them so much. I just want to see them, to be with them, to laugh and to love. Now, in the course of our time together, they will do many things to serve me, because we love each other deeply. The emphasis, however, is never on doing, but on being. They don’t sit around wondering if they measure up to my expectations, for they do not have to earn my approval. They already have it – in spades! Do you see the point? When you are in love, duty becomes desire. This is how God feels about serving you. Is it how you feel about serving him?

The power of our service must be in the relationship, not in the tasks themselves. According to Jesus, God is mostly concerned about us knowing and loving him: “Now this is eternal life: that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent” (John 17:3). If we have this kind of relationship, serving him will be a joy. Now this is good news. But it gets even better. He provides the power to do the serving that he calls us to do. In fact, he does in us and through us what we could never do ourselves. As Paul put it in Galatians 2:20, “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” Here he contrasts the life focused on relationship in Christ with a life focused on performance. The former he calls a life of faith, a life empowered by God though the cross. Note that the “self-life” is crucified (and not just our sins), making available Christ’s life in us. No wonder Paul could say “when I am weak, then I am strong” (2 Corinthians 12:10). His work ethic was staggering, but only because he had learned the difference between working in God’s power and his own.

Men are too full of themselves and their accomplishments. We entered a relationship with Christ simply by trusting his blood as we were lowered beneath the waters of baptism. We maintain this relationship by that same trust, the surrendered faith that really believes that he must be the power in us to accomplish his will in us. This is why he gives us the Holy Spirit when we are baptized (Acts 2:38) – to do in us and with us and through us the things that we could never do on our own. This is what Paul was getting at in Philippians 2:12-13, when he wrote: “continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.” Make no mistake about it, God doesn’t need you, for as Acts 17:25 says, “he is not served by human hands, as if he needed anything, because he himself gives all men life and breath and everything else.” No, he doesn’t need you; but, amazingly, he wants you. And that is the marvel of it all!

Conclusion

Do we have a philosophy of preaching? Unquestionably. What is yours? Is it focused primarily on man and the requirements for his performance, or primarily on God and his love as the foundation for any and all responses as a disciple? The consequences of what and how we preach are eternal. Let’s examine and re-examine our preaching and the philosophy that lies behind it. By God’s grace, many things have already changed in our movement. But the greater changes needed are, in my opinion, the ones addressed in this article. We have normally equated change with outward, organizational changes. However, the need of the hour is for inward changes in the hearts of individual disciples. Such changes come from preaching and teaching the message of Christ with his love as the foundation. Let this become the window through which we view all biblical subjects and the channel through which we deliver all of our messages. When we do, our philosophy will be perfectly aligned with God’s.

—Gordon Ferguson (May 2004)

Part 2 — Correction or Inspiration?

March 2005

Several months ago, I wrote an article entitled, “Motivation: Guilt or Grace?” In that article, I made the case that our primary spiritual motivation as disciples should be grounded in grace and not guilt. However, I certainly do not believe that grace and guilt are mutually exclusive. A conviction of our guilt before God is the beginning point to desiring and accepting God’s grace. The order in which Paul made his case in Romans demonstrates this fact, for the first three chapters led up to his treatment of grace by affirming that the best of us is a mess. Then consider what Jesus had to say in John 16:7-8: “But I tell you the truth: It is for your good that I am going away. Unless I go away, the Counselor will not come to you; but if I go, I will send him to you. When he comes, he will convict the world of guilt in regard to sin and righteousness and judgment.” Reading through the sermons in Acts will substantiate the fact that the early preachers were inspired by the Holy Spirit to follow this approach of establishing guilt before proceeding to grace. As the writer of Proverbs put it, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge” (Proverbs 1:7).

Having said that, we must also say that the fear of the Lord was never intended to be the “end” of knowledge. After we become Christians, we should be more and more motivated by grace than by guilt. In Him, “Christ’s love compels us” (2 Corinthians 5:14) to the extent that “perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment” (1 John 4:18). Properly understood and applied, grace motivates us for the long haul to do more than we ever would under a primary motivation of guilt. Paul himself is the best example of the truth of this principle. In 1 Corinthians 15:10, he had this to say: “But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them–yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me.”

The title of this article, “Motivation Revisited: Correction or Inspiration,” is closely related to that of the previous article, for correction has more to do with guilt than grace, and inspiration has more to do with grace than guilt. Before proceeding, we first must ask if lessons and sermons should have corrective elements in them. The answer is “yes,” for much of the New Testament is corrective in nature. But mark this well: correction alone will not inspire, and therefore, will not provide the ultimate motivation. Again, it is a matter of emphasis, isn’t it? Let me share with you an illustration that will hopefully make the point in a decisive way.

Someone recently told me that he was tired of hearing “agenda driven” preaching. Obviously, any attempt to select a subject or text for teaching has some purpose, or agenda, behind it. However, I understood what the person was saying. In our common approach to preaching, we have tried to figure out what we thought the majority of disciples in our church or ministry group needed, and then designed a sermon to address those perceived needs (as we saw them). Most often, those sermons were topical in nature. For example, if we believed the people needed to be more committed, our three lesson points might be: more committed in evangelism; more committed in giving financially, and more giving in attendance at all church activities. As each point was made, a verse would likely be read, quoted or referred to, but most of the sermon time would be focused on illustrations and correction. Sometimes such an approach is the right one, but a steady diet of it will lead to spiritual indigestion, malnutrition – or worse!

Shortly after I heard the criticism regarding agenda driven preaching, I heard a sermon preached that was actually expository in nature. However, the lesson could still be deemed an agenda driven one. The passage had a blend of corrective and inspirational elements, but the points of the sermon definitely focused on the former type. While the text provided wonderful opportunities to stress the inspirational elements, the speaker passed over them by simply reading or referring to them as he emphasized the more corrective elements. It was not a balanced presentation in that sense, but was a rather clear example of using a text to accomplish one’s own agenda of addressing perceived needs rather than simply letting the emphases of the text guide the points being made. This tendency among our preachers and teachers is so common that we may not even realize we are doing it.

It must also be noted that this problem is not limited to those who teach and preach in public settings. It is a tendency most disciples may have in studying with non-Christians and in discipling other Christians. We have been trained to correct, and many of us have become enamored with correction – minister and ordinary member alike. In view of this past emphasis in our training, the ministry staff of the Phoenix Valley Church of Christ are looking for ways to retrain our members. One thing we have done recently is to develop a new study series for helping people to become disciples. Here are a few of the explanatory questions and answers made in its introduction that show its design is to chart a new and different course in leading people to Christ: (This entire introduction and the study series can be seen on the phoenixvalleychurch.org web site.)

Why are we replacing the old study series? Primarily because the old series was too focused on man’s performance and not nearly enough on God’s grace as our primary motivation for serving him. Although thousands of people became Christians through the use of the old series, for which we are thankful, the new series will provide a much better motivational foundation to help keep people on a better track once they become Christians.
What is this series of studies all about? In a word, love, since the two greatest commands in the Bible are focused on love for God and love for our neighbors (Matthew 22:36-40). The titles of the four lessons are:

God’s Love For Us
Our Love For God
A Mutual Love (a two-part study about entering a saved relationship with God)
In Love Forever With God and His Children

How should I view my role in teaching the studies? Your role is not only to convey biblical truths in a study setting, but to build close spiritual relationships with those in the studies. Perhaps Paul said it best in 1 Thessalonians 2:8: “We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well, because you had become so dear to us.” Building relationships is more about listening than about lecturing or refuting, as James made clear in James 1:19: “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” Let’s love people, serve people, teach people, and win people to Christ. Then they will truly be our friends – friends of the “forever” variety! Now that is GOOD NEWS!

NOTE: After developing the Good News Series in 2004 and using it for several years, we revised the original First Principles Series in 2007, which we call Studies On Salvation (SOS). Many of our members were more familiar with the original series, and with a few needed revisions, we offered the SOS series, which now gives our members a choice. Disciples in other places have used our Good News Series effectively, and some have noted that has been especially helpful with those being restored. Both series can be found on our church web site (phoenixvalleychurch.org).

We need more inspiration to seek God initially and to serve God after conversion, and we need certain types of inspiration more than others. In the past, much of our inspiration has been of one particular type: a focus on our evangelistic goals and accomplishments. While we don’t want to eliminate this approach, if done in a way that exalts God and not ourselves, we need to be more inspired by God’s love and grace. But you may be wondering how that is best done? Let me assure you that it is not rocket science! God gave us families for many reasons, one of the most important being to teach us about his love for us and his view of us. How are our children best motivated overall – with correction or inspiration? Most of us as parents have come to the conclusion that inspiration ought to outweigh correction by a good deal – agreed? If we agree, why would we think that God’s kids need something different? (If you don’t agree, God help your kids!)

What are the most basic ways that we seek to inspire our own children? Perhaps with these four concepts: one, “I love you;” two, “I believe in you;” three, “I need you” (relationship); and four, “I’m proud of you.” How do we pass on these simple, but extremely profound, components of inspiration to God’s children? By clearly conveying that God loves you, he believes in you and in what you will become, he desperately wants a love relationship with you, and he is proud of you. Perhaps you have a difficult time believing that last point – that God is proud of you. We are just too aware of our sins to really believe that he is proud of us. Yet we as parents are proud of our children, regardless of their failures. Why? For at least two good reasons: one, because they are a part of us – made in our image; and two, because we treasure our children’s love for us, their good intentions in spite of their shortcomings. Is God different than we as parents? Is he not proud of us in spite of our failures, and appreciative of our good intentions?

I once posed this question to a group of ministry brothers: “The way to heaven is paved with good intentions – true or false?” Most of them answered “false” in a quick reflex reaction. They had heard the old adage that asserts the opposite: “The way to hell is paved with good intentions.” While this old adage is not from the Bible, perhaps in one sense it is true. Certainly there are intentions that are not blessed by God. The man who intends to deal with his purity someday, but never makes a decision to go after it or the one who intends to seek the kingdom first someday after he gets his finances in order are just two examples. But in another sense, I believe that the way to heaven is paved with good intentions. Who of us lives up to our best intentions? I believe that the fact that we have good spiritual intentions means a lot to God. Our desire is to do what is right, even when we fail miserably to live up to those intentions, and God knows and appreciates what we want to do. Our hearts mean more to him than our actions. If we appreciate our children’s hearts for us and their desire to please us, rest assured that God feels similarly, but to a much greater extent. He is a far better and more loving Parent than we have ever dreamed of being. Not only must we stress these ways that God feels about people; we must in God’s stead model the same toward his children. We must say to one another in the name of Christ: “I love you;” “I believe in you” (what you will be, not simply can be); “I need your friendship and love;” and “I’m proud of you.” People need an abundant dose of encouragement, and leaders have too often been too limited in prescribing it.

About a year before moving from Boston, I made a statement in a congregational setting that had more impact than I would have imagined. I told the Boston church that in my heart they were pure gold, and then gave the reasons for that feeling. Afterwards a brother who had been in the church for years came up to me with tears in his eyes to thank me for that statement. He went on to say that the impression he had been left with about the church was quite different – that they seldom measured up to expectations (assumedly those of both leaders and God). I’ve repeated this little story in sermons in different churches, and almost without exception, I spot people in the audience with tears in their eyes. (Why do you think that happens?) How does it make me feel to see their tears? Mostly ashamed – ashamed that I as a leader, and that we as a group of leaders, did not make people feel more loved, appreciated, needed, respected and a source of spiritual pride to their fathers in the faith. God, please forgive us for being poor spiritual fathers and mothers to your beloved children! And God, please bless and enable us not to simply be content with convicting and correcting, but to provide a clear and consistent expression of your love and our love to your children in copious amounts!

[1] See Douglas Jacoby’s article, The Workman Approved: Preaching and Preachers at www.DouglasJacoby.com. His article and mine are quite complementary in addressing similar needs from two somewhat different vantage points.

[2] Thomas A. Jones, Strong in the Grace (Billerica, MA: Discipleship Publications International, 2004) 17.